Why do you feel insecure even after losing weight?
When most people think about having a fitness body, what they really think is that they will get the secret of self-confidence.
We have been conditioned to the idea that when we work hard to convert our bodies so that they look good, we will automatically look happy and feel safe. But unfortunately, it is not always and at all times this way.
There are many people who, despite achieving the goals they had set themselves and fulfilling each of the objectives, do not reach the point of self-esteem and self-confidence they were seeking. What’s more, it’s quite common for the opposite to happen, much worse than before.
What do we do wrong?
The main reason is the large investment in advertising developed and oriented to manipulate people. To make people think that it only comes between you and your dream life is the way of your body. This kind of marketing is efficient because people want to think about it. The drawback is not difficult enough to solve…;
Self-esteem is just the opposite of losing several calories! Miracle regimes do not exist, you can read more about them in the next link.
Here are some of the more common reasons why people feel insecure, even after achieving their goals:
- Your hopes were unrealistic: many people think that when they achieve their training goals they will be perfect. They were already shy, insecure…. once they reach their goals, everything will be perfect. Of course, you’re not going to stop being shy about losing ten kilos…. Please, never think about this direction, you’re already getting off to a bad start.
- Your self-talk hasn’t changed: many people think that when they achieve their physical goals, they will ultimately stop being negative and self-critical. They accept that their body is the cause of their negative self-talk, so moving their body will automatically change that behavior. If you have spent your life focusing on your shortcomings, comparing yourself to others and criticizing yourself, then you are going to be very skilled at it. It takes time and practice to break negative mental habits, and even more time and practice to thrive on positive ones. If you change your body without changing your psyche, your brain will simply find new flaws to focus on, new people to match and new things to criticize.
- Your new habits were not sustainable: whatever you do to achieve your anatomical transformation, you will have to continue to do so always and at all times to sustain it. That said, they are not necessarily supposed to hold that form any longer if people often consider that there is going to be an end point in their goal and that when they reach their destination, they will continue there forever. And yet, there is no such thing as a point and end, it is just a long journey.
- They control their lives too much: when they begin to make changes, the effort is conscious; you pay close attention to each lesson in behavior. When it comes to the body, people become very vigilant about the behaviors that led them to success. They are aware of how hard it took them to get where they are and they feel afraid, even obsessively, of being able to ruin everything. That’s why they pay attention to every little detail. In some ways they may be right but if you don’t control it you will end up living in ceaseless fear, and this is not healthy either.
Focusing on how you see yourself all the time, even in a positive way, strengthens the link between appearance and self-esteem. But what happens when you get used to your new body and compliments reduce it? who else are you? what else do you have to offer people? what else do you have to trust?
Your sense of self-esteem must be tied to something that cannot be moved, not something that is naturally meant to be.